Life Lessons

On Saturday, Daddy was working (oh glorious 6 days a week here we come) so I took all the kids to the grocery store with me.  We only had a few things to get so i felt fairly confident we could make it in and out without causing too much of a scene. 

As we were heading down the coffee aisle we passed a man who was very petite.  He was about the size of a seven year old but he looked like a man.  I didn't think much of it but Boogie came running down the aisle after me and said "Mommy did you see that man!  He was so tiny!"  Her eyes were huge and she kept looking back to try to get another glimpse of him.  (Thank God Baby didn't notice because I love my child to death but she is anything but discreet and tends to speak her mind unfiltered)

I got down on Boogie's level and quietly said to her.  "Boogie.  People come in all shapes and sizes.  You know what makes mommy the saddest?  When people stare at Bunny just because he looks different."  And because my sweet Boogie is wise beyond her years and loves her Bunny with a crazy fierceness she instantly understood and nodded her head with an "okay mom".

We walked by the man again later and he caught her eye but I saw her look away and I caught her eye and winked at her.  Message received.

It really is hard on me when people just openly stare at Bunny. I'm sure they are just curious but some of them are just so darn rude.  They crane their necks to keep staring.  Makes me want to scream "HE HAS DOWN SYNDROME.  GET OVER IT!  I AM"  But that would get me nowhere now would it?

I would be teaching my kids it is rude to stare or point out people who look different anyway but now it hits home even more.  As my kids get older I hope they will be the ones to talk to everyone as equals and never treat anyone as less of a person just because of their disability or differences.  I want them to be comfortable around people of all shapes and sizes.

Incidentally, when I was talking to Boogie, Baby was desperately trying to figure out what was going on and was asking in her very loud voice "Mom!  What don't you like? When people scare you?"  I winked at Boogie and said "Yes Baby.  I don't like when people scare me"  Had I tried to explain the situation to Baby she would have started pointing to every man in the store and asking "Is that the man we are not supposed to stare at?!!"  I am going to have to be quite creative with Baby's sensitivity training.


Being Flexible

Remember when I was so excited to have a babysitter so that I could easily take Bunny to therapy on Tuesdays and Thursdays?  Remember how I spent an hour last night trying to decide what things I was going to get done today while my awesome babysitter was entertaining my children?

I got a phone call this morning that last night my babysitter had to have her appendix out.  I felt really bad for her as my dad just went through this.  Then I felt really bad for myself because today is the day I really need someone to watch the kids so Bunny can do therapy.  I started to go to the "Why can't things just be easy??!!" place. 

Realizing that an attitude adjustment was in order I just decided to cancel therapy and make the best of the day.  We thought about going to the local amusement park but the times were awkward with the boy's new nap schedule (which I am LOVING and refuse to mess up) so instead we decided to do a quick park trip before it got too hot followed by some mommy swim lessons.

I even managed to convince Boogie to leave her book in the car and get some exercise.  My girl has become quite a bookworm!

Baby is currently obsessed with the show Doc McStuffins on the Disney Channel and insists on wearing a headband everyday (like the Doc does).  Here is her "Doc McStuffins" pose.  She is such a friendly child.  The first thing she does when we head to the park is scope for new friends.  Today she found some grandparents who were there with their two grandkids and dog and became their adopted grandaughter.

Buddy wanted out the minute we got there.  He was off and running and ready to climb and give mommy a heart attack.

It is tricky taking all the kids to the park by myself because the boys don't want to stay in the stroller but I need to carry Bunny and chase after Buddy.  It gets a little stressful at times.  Plus I have to keep my eye on my wanderer (Baby).

My solution?  The swings!  Boogie loves to help push the boys.

I think I am being taught how to be more flexible.  Is it the end of the world that Bunny missed therapy? No.  Is it the end of the world that I did not get the upstairs vacuumed and picked up? No.  Did I get to enjoy time with my girls and teach them some new swim tricks?  Absolutely.  So I would say that everything turned out okay and that maybe I just need to roll with the punches.


Exciting Changes

I want to first address the posting of my birth story.  I was so nervous to post the link and have my friends and family read my dark, ugly thoughts.  I almost deleted it and instead went to bed really nervous.  I am so glad I did though.  I had a very emotional day reading people's comments and feeling all the love and support and I think it was really healing for me.  I have never hidden my emotions in regards to Bunny's birth but I don't think a lot of people have felt comfortable asking so I'm glad I got it out there.

Now, onto our exciting news.  I need to post about Bunny's latest IFSP meeting but one of the results was that we get a new infant teacher.  We already have Physical Therapy and Occupational Therapy once a week and now we get an infant teacher.  I probably could have had one before now but I was so fed up with the last one that I needed a break and wanted to wait for a good one.  My physical therapist recommended our new one because she is also an occupational therapist and specializes in speech.  Early Start in California will not begin to recommend a Speech therapist until 18 months so I like that we are getting a little head start.

We met her on Friday and I LOVE her already.  She was so positive and Bunny responded to her very well.  He has been nervous around everyone but family lately so this is huge.  She teaches at a nearby State college and has already asked me if I would like to be a on a parent panel someday to help educate her students on how to treat parents and not be offensive.  Of course I said yes!

Now onto my good news.  I hired a babysitter!!! She is in college and is going to be a teacher.  She is red cross certified and she is so so sweet.  My girls are counting down the days until she comes over for the first time.  (We met her on friday) She is coming on the days when Bunny has therapy so I can take him alone without worrying about the other kids.  I seriously feel like a weight has been lifted.  I had no idea what I was going to do with the girls all summer and Buddy is getting so mischievous during therapy that it has been hard to learn.   I see it as a complete win win because I will get a break/get to clean the house/work/do errands and the girls and Buddy will get a ton of attention and get to do some fun outings.  I plan to mostly keep Bunny with me because it will be less overwhelming for the babysitter and because of his stranger anxiety.  He's easy though!

......and here is what I have been dying for since the very very hot scorching summer when I was 8 months pregnant with Baby.  It took me that long to convince Daddy.  I want my kids to be swimmers and to be comfortable in the water.  I have always loved swimming.  I knew that there was NO WAY I would be able to take all 4 kids to any kind of in ground pool this year and keep everyone safe so Daddy finally agreed.  I call it my white trash pool.

We got a saltwater filter for it so no chemicals to worry about either!  The girls are in heaven!  I told them yesterday that there was no way mommy was getting in until the water got warmer but I just couldn't stand it and today I caved.  It wasn't cold at all once I got in.  We had so much fun!!! 

The water comes up to just under Baby's head so she doesn't exactly need a life jacket or floaties but she insists on them.  (She just started swim lessons last summer so she is not swimming yet) She did let me take them off when I was in there with her though and we practiced going under the water a few times.  I will have her swimming in no time I'm sure!!

Oh and apparently Buddy is going to be a little fishy. He woke up from his nap while I was in the pool and he got in with us. He had a perma-smile the whole time! I kept asking if he was cold and he would shake his head "No". He LOVED it! Bunny was not a fan of the cold and had no interest in coming in. We will wait until the water warms up a bit but I have a copy of this book and plan to read up!

I feel like so much of my time is instructing the girls to do this or do that.  I love that we have this pool to just have fun together in.  Some of my favorite memories from childhood are when my parents cut loose and just had fun with us!  (Waterslides!  Best memories ever!)  I hope that we will make lots of fun memories this summer.


My Twin Birth Story

This birth story has turned into quite a long read but I wanted to get it down because many of my friends don't even know the story because I was so traumatized at the time.  I would ugly cry when I started to talk about the birth.  Now I can almost get through it with just some glistening.  So here goes..

I want to start with a little background.  Two months before I got pregnant with the boys Boogie and I were at the Vitamin store.  I was picking up a new multivitamin and as I was checking out Boogie told the man, "My mom is going to have twin baby boys".  The man told me "Congratulations!" and I awkwardly explained that I was NOT pregnant.  A few minutes later she told a Target cashier the same thing.  We had a little chat on the way home about how mommy was NOT pregnant and NOT having twins.

Obviously, Boogie got the last laugh.